“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.” – Jim Rohn
When I don’t do something, there’s always a reason why I don’t. I don’t commit to early morning activities because with my chronic illness I don’t do mornings. I don’t ride my bike because I’m too tired, busy, cold, or uncomfortable. I don’t call my family members because I have “phone phobia”. There’s always a reason.
I read this quote last weekend and I started to think about “reasons” vs. “excuses”. It’s easy to label all “reasons” as “excuses” and at first I reacted with shame: “If you REALLY WANTED to, you’d find a way” (spoken to myself with a sarcastic sneer). <sigh>
After just a little thought, though, I realized that this quote could be used as a “WANT TO” test for myself. Any of the “reasons” I give could be legitimate obstacles, but my reaction to them can give me insight into what I really WANT to do! Am I spending my energy on finding ways around those obstacles? …or trying to find more obstacles to put in my way (excuses)?
Now I can see that an excuse is just an indicator that I don’t really want to do the job/project/activity in the first place.
So, when contemplating an activity and I’m not sure whether I can do it, or whether I even want to do it, I can ask myself: What do I see myself looking for? If I’m looking for a WAY, then keep at, sister! But if I’m looking for a WAY OUT, then I can let it go. Sweet…